Wednesday, May 18, 2011

Heartsick in Seattle

Yes, that would be me. I found out today that my other best friend at work is leaving my team. I knew he'd applied for a different job, and although I wished him the best, I secretly hoped he wouldn't go.

This is the second person to leave my team in one week, and they're my two best friends on the team. A year ago my absolute best friend on my team left the company. Now in one week I've lost my other two best friends at work.

These guys are more than just coworkers. They're actually friends. They help me with problems, they were my go-to people when I wanted a second opinion, and I felt like I was the same for them. They made me laugh even during the most difficult situations. I sort of feel like I'm getting divorced or something.

I feel really, really sad. Heartsick as Hopeful and Free would say. I know life goes on, but it's not going to be the same. I like the other people on my team. They're all nice people, but I just don't have the same type of relationship with them that I had with these guys.

For even more misery, I've spent the last two days sitting in on peer interviews. There's not much I hate about my job, except this one thing...interviews. I detest sitting in on interviews.

I skipped the gym this morning. I've gone the past four days, but this morning I just couldn't do it. I walked at lunch, a very brisk walk (which resulted in a blister because of rock in my shoe that I couldn't find...I think it was in my sock). By the time I was back at the office I was a sweaty mess.

When I got home my husband had picked up fried chicken from the deli (why?!). I ate two pieces, and no vegetables. Now I feel sort of nauseous, and very, very sad.

Not my best day.


Roxie said...

I'm so sorry that you are losing your work friends. I am someone who regards my coworkers very highly, so I understand your heartsickness.

bbubblyb said...

I'm sorry that another friend has changed teams. Maybe you can try to make it a regular thing to have lunch once a month or something with them. I too understand the heartsickness about co-workers leaving, I've had it happen to me several times over the 22 yrs I've been here and it's never a good feeling. At least you will still get to see them around the building.

safire said...

I'm sorry you are losing your support network at work! I do hope you feel better.

Mer and Mo said...

Big Hugs!!! :)


M Pax said...

Sorry things have taken a sad turn. Hugs.

hopeful and free said...

it's rare to find good friends, especially at work, and on your team? someone who has your back?...a real loss. give yourself some time to feel sad. it's one of those key emotions--very human and important. hugs.

Dawn said...

I know replacing your friends is impossible but they were there, and now they have left, keep your heart open to the fact there may be new co-workers and new friends to join your team to replace these valued friends.
You can't have enough friends...right?

Grace said...

I'm sorry about your friends going on to other jobs. But they will still be your friends and that leaves an opportunity to meet new, wonderful people.

Hope you are feeling better, Diana. Sending you hugs.

The title of this post is a joke, there's no new me. It's just the same old me, doing the same old stuff. Just for fun, I went back...