Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Really? Fairbanks again?!

I swear I have the most dysfunctional, crazy, weird family in the world, and I don't mean that in a good way.

After weeks of listening to the whining and complaining about cleaning out their mother's house, one of my nieces (the most crazy of the crazy) called me yesterday (the first time since she changed all her phone numbers a month ago). She demanded to be paid for her time for helping her mother by cleaning out her mother's house, as well as for her gas for driving the six miles to the house.

Oh.My.God. Are you serious?  Yes, she was serious and NO-FREAKING-WAY will she get paid. I don't get paid and darn don't get paid. May I remind you, this is for your mother! I'm just totally flabbergasted over this latest event. Who are these people?! Their mother, my sister, practically dedicated her life to them and this is how they repay her?

After contacting my attorney, I decided to fly up to Fairbanks tomorrow night. Friday morning I'm having all the locks changed on my sister's house. Then I'm meeting with an auctioneer at the house to discuss how to go about auctioning off all my sister's personal belongings and household items, then to the realtor to sign the listing agreement. My brother will visit the house once a week to make sure it's okay.

The children...they are DONE. I don't want to hearing about it anymore. They seem to take joy in telling me what a mess it is and how they're mother had a shopping problem and how hard they're working. I've had enough. Keep in mind these aren't young people, they're between the ages of 46 to 49 and neither of my nieces even have jobs.

Here's the forecast for Fairbanks, and where my sister's house is located twenty-three miles out of Fairbanks it's always ten degrees colder. That would make it a low of -46 degrees. Yuk.

I'm probably going to stay at my sister's house, which is going to be very weird. No internet, TV, or phone (and my cell phone barely works out there), I had it all turned off to save money. The main reason I'm staying there is I'm on a shredding mission while I'm there, to shred as much paperwork as possible in a day and a half. My sister doesn't own a shredder. That alone should tell you something.

The diet and exercise
Still at it, gym every day as usual. I didn't track my food today, but I don't think I ate enough because my family situation was stressing me out. The worst thing about going to Fairbanks is that I'll miss my Saturday Weight Watcher meeting. Very frustrating.

The good thing about this trip, I get to see my sister, even if it is for a short time. I really miss her.


Sarah said...
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Sarah said...

If your sister has a fireplace, I would recommend just burning what you want to shred in the fireplace. It will be safer, quicker and it will help keep you warm! Plus shredders like to get jammed, over heat and stop working.

I live in FL and that's pretty much all we use our fireplace for.

I'm sorry your sister's kids are behaving that way. I know so many people like that unfortunately.

Diandra said...

Wow. Sorry this is such a mess.

Maren said...

Sometimes .. it's really incredible how far out of this world some people are. I am so sorry you have to deal with people like this!

Miz said...

sending you thoughts of calm for all this.
all the thoughts I can spare :)

Mom on a mission said...

Praying for a safe trip...keep warm!!

jinxxxygirl said...

I'm so sorry things are so crazy. As far as auctioning off the contents of the house. I assume you've taken what special trinkets or heirlooms you might want saved out.? A life well lived given over to the auctioneer....kind of sad isn't it??? It may be hard to remember but the things in that house meant something to your sister at one time. Is there anything you think she might still want if things start to look up for her more?? Once its gone its gone..... Keeping you my thoughts. You can do hard can do this......deb

Mer and Mo said...

Sending you good, strong and comforting thoughts as you deal with something so hard - emotionally more then physically!!! Praying that all goes well!! Safe travels.


MaryFran said...

Stay strong! Don't let the crazy family members get to you!!!!!!

Be safe!!!

Jane Cartelli said...

Remember that as cold as it is in Fairbanks for you, there will be a colder place in hell waiting for the niece who wants to be reimbursed for the 6 miles.

Safe travels my friend Warmly waiting for your return to the lower 48.

Jane at

Lyn said...

Ugh, so sorry. I do hope things settle down for you soon.

Ron said...

Sorry you have to deal with all of this. but I think you will handle it well.