Saturday, January 4, 2014

It's a new year and a new life

So much happened to me last year that it almost seems like it happened to someone else. In spite of the really ugly parts, I'm glad I made it through it.

If you've been reading along you know the year was filled with despair and pain. Starting in late 2012 with a physical assault against me by my husband of 24 years, followed by a long year of waiting for the case to go to trial and then it being dropped at the last minute by the prosecutor. Not enough evidence.

During that year I was in the middle of a bitter divorce battle with my husband. True to his word, he had told me many times that if I ever divorced him that he would destroy me. Well, he tired but I'm proud to say that I'm officially divorced as of December 31,2013, and I'm still standing. He didn't succeed at destroying me even though he gave it his best effort. In another post that I plan on writing someday is the flaws of a community property state, but I'll save that for another day.

Throw in the cancer, a rare, deadly and aggressive cancer, Uterine Leiomyosarcoma and two cancer surgeries to remove it, and you get the picture my last year.

On the other side of all of this tragedy something wonderful happened. I fell in love with a wonderful, kind and loving man. I'm not sure if I would have made it through this year without him. He held me as I wept over my cancer diagnosis. He nursed me through both of my cancer surgeries. He commiserated with me over the unfairness of my divorce settlement and the stupid community property laws in this state (Washington). He's gone with me every Sunday to see my disabled sister, when we both put on a happy face for her to make sure she has a good time on her weekly outings with us. He is a good man, and I'm very lucky to have him in my life.

My weight has been on the upswing. I weighed in at 207 this morning. That's 33 pounds from my highest weight of 240 and 55 pounds from my low of 152 about three years ago. I'm fat. There's no question about it.

2014 is going to be my year to get healthy once and for all. I don't have a specific plan on how to do it yet. I'm still working on the details. Exercise will be key since I know that's essential not only to weight loss but to a happy spirit. It's the best antidepressant I know (and it's free with no negative side effects). More on the details later.

Today I'm recovering from the flu. Two days of 102 temperature and pretty much feel like I've been beaten up. I'm exhausted and every part of me hurts. Normal temperature this morning so I'm getting better. For now I'm just resting and taking it easy. By Monday I should be on track with a new plan.

13 comments:

Grace said...

Diana! I have missed you! So glad you are back and that everything seems to be looking up. Congrats on your divorce and your new love. xoxo

BeckyAnne said...

Of course you're still standing. You are an immensely strong woman, and I read your blog posts with great interest. 2014 will be much, much better for you.

Anna Down Under said...

I have been following you and I'm so happy the divorce is over ... and that you've found someone else! You deserve happiness, so enjoy! Here's to meeting our weight loss goals this year!

Michelle said...

I'm so glad you came out the other end of this ordeal with positivity and hope. Wishing you a happy and healthy new year from your supporter in south Florida.

Lyn said...

So glad to hear from you Diana, and very glad you have someone there caring for you. I think of you often and keep you in my prayers. I think 2014 will be a good year for us both :)

Lyn said...

So glad to hear from you Diana, and very glad you have someone there caring for you. I think of you often and keep you in my prayers. I think 2014 will be a good year for us both :)

MaryFran said...

Your post was just what I needed to hear. My 2013 wasn't the great either....and I'm planning on making 2014 my year. But reading your post and how upbeat you are was just what I needed to read this morning! Thanks!

Carrieheff said...

SO happy you are doing well. I know the last year has been rough for you, but 2014 will hopefully make up for it! Keep us posted on your journey. I often wonder how you are doing.

Tessie said...

Congratulations on the successful freedom! I am so happy to hear you have found love. That's totally awesome! Take good care and may this be your best year ever with many more to follow! :)

lindalou said...

Glad your back !!!

alex21 said...

Hope this year will be much better for you because you deserve it.

Anonymous said...

So glad you checked in. Hope you feel better soon. Happy for you that the divorce and is over and you can make 2014 all about you and your happiness. Its your time to take care of you.

Ida said...

I have wondered about you occasionally over the past couple of months and would whisper a prayer for you when you crossed my mind. I am glad to know that you have the divorce behind you, and can now start living the rest of your life. Here's to new beginnings!

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